As a reader but also as a writer, an artist, and a human
being I would be outraged by the sentiments of a one hans hirschi if I wasn’t
too busy being thoroughly disgusted.
Apparently hans who is an author of “gay romance” or gay fiction, has stated
that the only reason why women write and read gay male romance is to and I
quote “get off”. He also goes on to list other grievances with gay romance or gay fiction not
written by himself or other gay men. He says women as somehow destroying gay
literature. He claims there is no such thing as gay for you which refers to
straight male or female characters who meet a gay person they connect with and
enter into some sort of gay relationship with that one person. It is funny he
said this, because as a gay man I have known several of these situations that
lasted for years in the real world. I have had no less than three gay friends
this has happened to and about five straight friends this has happened to. He
then goes on to complain that the idea of fantasy shifter creatures which by
definition are neither human nor real would have the males of the species
giving birth; because to hans that is just stupid and doesn’t happen in real
life. I would refer hans to a very real world creature called a sea-horse where
indeed it is the male of the species who gives birth, and then I would refer
him to various types of animals like certain frogs who have been known to
change gender half way through their lives. However who cares about any of this
since we started out talking about non-human fantasy creatures? Why shouldn’t
the men be the ones to give birth in these imaginary worlds? Does hans despise
his own gender? Is that the real problem here?
I would like to understand the insanity of the statement
that women are destroying gay literature. The vast majority of “gay romances
are written by women for women. If it were not for women there wouldn’t be much
of a gay literary world at all. People might think this is an exaggeration but
I assure people that it is not. The gay literature world is dominated by
heterosexual women who are “Dorothies” or straight female friends and allies of
the gay community which is also affectionately sometimes called “OZ”.
I would also like to talk about assertion that these women
only read and write gay male romance to get off. Now this is probably the most
astounding and stupid thing he claims in his post. In what fantasy realm does
he live in that this could possibly be true? If this was true several other
things would also be true. One, they could just watch gay porn and be done with
it. Then there is the fact that if this was true they would only write sex
scenes and trade them back and forth. Is that what these people are doing? No,
of course not. They are reading and writing whole stories. These writers are
creating worlds with characters they care an awful lot about. I know because
many of these people are very dear friends of mine and they truly love their
characters, most of them at least. As writers and readers they are truly
invested in these characters, these worlds, and their stories. I have had the
chance to meet many of these readers and fans and I am all the better for it as
a person. These people are so excited and joyful to share these stories, and to
take these adventures and live out these fantasies. Many people know the joys
of reading, but not like the true die hard fans of a series or an author. I can
attest to this because again, not only am I a writer I am also a huge fan of a
lot of the authors I know. Even though several of these people are my friends I
still get as excited as a kid at Christmas or a teen girl meeting a rock star
she loves when I encounter these authors in real life and get to talk to them.
I would like to add something to all of this. Let us pretend
in some insane universe that hans is right and that somehow all of these women
who spend so much time and energy reading and writing these books, and starting
online groups, and book clubs, and fan clubs are doing all of this, just so they
can get off. My question is “WHO CARES” and so what?
Why should any gay man complain about people getting off? As
a gay man, an artist, and also as a minister and a healer, I want people to
“get off” more. The more people experience orgasms the more happiness and less
fighting there will be in the world. Remember the old hippy phrase “make love
not war”; well seemingly according to some tests that have been done over the
last several decades, this is a truth. Don’t take my word for this, go a
research it. Why would I as a gay man care that any of these women might be
getting off on this? That mr. hirschi stated it like it is a terrible bad
thing. It is not a bad thing at all. In fact I find it both fascinating and
flattering that these women might find the men of the gay community and our sex
lives such a turn on, even if it is the sex lives of fictitious members of our
community.
He had the idiocy to complain about cock-walks, and to this
I can only think he was referencing GRL’s cock-walk where money is raised for
gay charities. I was proud to donate to the walk and to purchase tickets so I
could give something back to the gay community. Shame on him for complaining
about something so worthy.
Another strange thing he has complained about is that gay
romance authors have the stars of adult gay films on their covers. I am
floored. I am also at a loss as to why this is an issue for anyone? What
exactly is he objecting to? That fact that porn stars are working other jobs
like being cover models? Is he trying to convince us he has never watched porn
and gotten off to it; because if he is I don’t believe him at all. Is the
problem that some of these stars are gay? Is it because some of them are
straight and only do gay for pay? Is the problem that they cost more to get on
covers than stock images? Is he jealous that he can’t afford to have them on
his covers? Perhaps the problem is that none of them have agreed to be on his
covers. Why the prejudice against these cover models or the authors of the
books for that matter? What I find utterly strange is that he even cares about
what covers, or cover models other authors use. I mean what is all this
complaining really about? I think there might be a lot going on in his personal
life and all of this is just his way of not dealing with it. Why else all the
prejudice against things that are usually embraced by the vast majority of the
gay community? Personally I have friends who are models and porn stars and I
really truly just love them. They are some of the kindest, sweetest, honest,
and frankly best people I have met in many many years. He wondered why people
like him are not on covers? Well sir for the same reason that I am not on
covers; like you and I have met you in person during GRL, I am as ugly as sin
and would make a terrible cover. And no personally I don’t find you
masturbation material at all since you brought it up. He seems very preoccupied
in his article with things having to be “realistic”, and all I can say to that
is he can have his realism. A huge part of why I love reading is to escape
mundane and often terrible reality. According to him there are almost no black
heterosexual female writers they are all white, he seems preoccupied with race
here. Racism? I have to wonder. Now, where I can almost understand his
complaints is that most gay romance is written by women for women and it shows.
I don’t think anyone I know would really argue with that. I can almost always
tell if a man wrote something as opposed to a woman. Women have different
things they pay attention to in their work, they have a different style and
different sensitivities. There are even certain words and phrases my female
writer friends despise and refuse to use which I as a gay man love and use all
the time. Does any of that matter? No. Does it stop me from reading the books
by women and loving and enjoying them? No. I love how the moron hans throws
around words like appropriation and starts talking about our last refuge and
bringing up being thrown off of a reservation as if he has ever set foot on a
reservation. There is no such thing as cultural appropriation but I expect
nothing less than a libtard like hans to throw that racist concept around. I as
a gay man love the fact that so many women love gay male romance. Many of these
female friends of mine who are authors and readers read books written by gay
men all the time and love them. I do slightly agree with hans that this whole
movement about #ownvoices is a load of total bulls#it and I refuse to adhere to
it as should all writers and artists. I want to say to hans however that no one
cares about how he FEELS, because it is of zero consequence to anyone but
himself. Hans also feels that rough sex is the equivalent of rape. Well hans
you can’t rape the willing. I have read many times how women’s “insides” were
torn apart by her lovers cock. Why shouldn’t we be able to read and write about
rough sex in the queer community when so many of us love rough sex; as an
example I will point to the leather community and a great many porn videos as
well as many gay men I have known who love to describe their lover’s “wrecking”
their holes.
I do agree with hans that much of the so called diversity in
the gay community is limited to certain types of people. I for one am not
accepted by the vast majority of the queer community because I am a Trump
loving hardcore constitutional conservative who despises the democratic party.
I don’t want to exclude democrats from the gay literary community however. Is
true diversity needed? Absolutely! What I can’t understand with hans is that he
wants to exclude so many people to achieve his strange idea of diversity. It is
sad how ignorant and arrogant hans seems to be.
To the idiot woman who told hans that she wants her male
characters to suffer at the hands of their lovers the way she did at the hands
of her rapist…all I can say is that you madam are sick and twisted as the f*ck
head who raped you. That is something truly disgusting. Find a journal and
write it, and keep that crap to yourself. I would also like to add that due to
the me-too movement I don’t believe most rape stories now. That is the true
problem with the me too morons. They have shoved their crap down all of our
throats so bad, that a great many of us just don’t believe people anymore and
what’s worse is that many people have stopped even caring. Since I have friends
and relatives that have been raped I feel this is a shame. The me too movement
is hurting real rape victims not helping them at all. The author hans wants us
to think about all the atrocities happening to gay men around the world right
now. Well hans I don’t have to think about it or consider it, I have lived it!
Is that real enough for you hans? You don’t like the thought that people get
off, and personally I say shame on you for wanting to horde all the worlds
orgasms for yourself. I hope everyone can get off as much as they want to
because of anything that is good and legal and right to get off to. I have very
rarely met any man gay or otherwise who doesn’t like to be thought of as a toy
boy or a sexual fantasy. Most men I have known want to be fantasized about. Can
we at least acknowledge that reality hans?
So in closing I would like to say dear Mr. hirschi please go
get a real life and stop complaining about what other people do with their
lives; and stop preaching down to us so condescendingly with your idiotic
feelings and prejudices. You as a gay man should know better! Also I know that
you happen to be an adulterer and that your husband and child deserve better. I
have seen one very young man you were having an affair with and you could have
been his grandfather almost. Normally I would say good for you on that one, but
since you are married I would like to say, shame on you. If this were the
ancient world you probably would be taken out and stoned to death. As it is I
think you probably did a lot of damage to yourself with your post, since you
have alienated so many people. You basically murdered your own career and I
guess that is its own sort of justice now isn’t it. As for myself I have
nothing to loose really by stating what I think about your article so I did. My
feelings don’t matter any more than yours really but at least I can admit that.
Bye Felicia.
P.S. To whatever idiot evil c*nt of a femi-nazi who told
hans to stop manspalining…go F*ck yourself you utter fool of a moron piece of
stupid skeezy trash! Stop womansplaining to the rest of us.
Now everyone can get back to their usual life schedules,
which I hope include reading and or writing about whatever the f*ck you want
to. Never let anyone tell you what literature to like and enjoy.
Happy Reading!
That is all.